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{ksenia}
10/23/2015     
Bra Tester I'm most relaxed when D/s is talked about under the umbrella of 'kink'...that's how i see my own preferences...they're kinky. Just as someone with a penchant for chewing day-old-socks may be kinky.....

it's not my kink and that's good....there's no one i'd rather be, than me!

There are many things that are not my kink.....i'm not that big on pain for pains sake, not very comfortable with High Protocol, i hate the idea of being suspended from ropes (ropes where i'm solidly bound to something, totally different matter w00t )...

my own FL kink list currently includes "The Green Mist From Bram Stoker Dracula" and "Not Being Killed by Clowns"....

they may not be your kink...that's also good.


The mist is MINE!


However....a kink is a kink is a kink.........until it abuses someone's consent.


I see people's lists of kinks and it says 'no dogs', 'no children'.


What?


interestingly, it never says 'no people with autism' 'no coma patients'.


(that made me squirm uncomfortably just writing it).



Can you please stop writing 'no children' on your BDSM list of do's and dont's as if it's another kink that someone else might have that's ok. It filthies up my use of the word kinky....and not in a good way!!


It is never ok.


ever.


Someone might like children, it may not even be their fault but a genetic or physical mess up (i am one of those terrible liberal socialists after all). However, whatever reasons you wanna give it, it is not a kink. It's a perversion and, if acted on, it's a crime.

In the UK we have the Mental Capacity Act 2005, the Animal Welfare Act 2006, a whole bunch of acts protecting children and young people and the on going development of various acts and legislation on domestic abuse (thank God for that curfew on wife beating in 1895!). There's a reason they have legislation that specifically protects them and, pertinent to this post, it's to do with the capacity for consent and the ability to protect oneself using other laws, legislations or freedoms.





If they did not consent, it's not a kink - it's a crime.

If they did not have the capacity to consent, it's not a kink - it's a crime.

If their ability to consent was undermined, it is not a kink - it's a crime.




I don't wanna see, on people's "don't do" list, validations of other people's perversions* or crimes.......it's not even a little bit ok and yet, when people write it alongside scat play or scarification, there is the implication that it's ok as long as it's practiced elsewhere and i'm not forced to participate.




It's not a kink. It's not ok. Ever.




*used in the proper sense of the word.




"I'm bad, and that's good. I will never be good, and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be, than me."
― The Bad Guy Affirmation, Wreck It Ralph






“You'll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You'll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.” - Dr. Seuss

Edited: 10/23/2015 by {ksenia}
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10/23/2015
  
{ksenia}
Bra Tester
I'm most relaxed when D/s is talked about under the umbrella of 'kink'...that's how i see my own preferences...they're kinky. Just as someone with a penchant for chewing day-old-socks may be kinky.....

it's not my kink and that's good....there's no one i'd rather be, than me!

There are many things that are not my kink.....i'm not that big on pain for pains sake, not very comfortable with High Protocol, i hate the idea of being suspended from ropes (ropes where i'm solidly bound to something, totally different matter w00t )...

my own FL kink list currently includes "The Green Mist From Bram Stoker Dracula" and "Not Being Killed by Clowns"....

they may not be your kink...that's also good.


The mist is MINE!


However....a kink is a kink is a kink.........until it abuses someone's consent.


I see people's lists of kinks and it says 'no dogs', 'no children'.


What?


interestingly, it never says 'no people with autism' 'no coma patients'.


(that made me squirm uncomfortably just writing it).



Can you please stop writing 'no children' on your BDSM list of do's and dont's as if it's another kink that someone else might have that's ok. It filthies up my use of the word kinky....and not in a good way!!


It is never ok.


ever.


Someone might like children, it may not even be their fault but a genetic or physical mess up (i am one of those terrible liberal socialists after all). However, whatever reasons you wanna give it, it is not a kink. It's a perversion and, if acted on, it's a crime.

In the UK we have the Mental Capacity Act 2005, the Animal Welfare Act 2006, a whole bunch of acts protecting children and young people and the on going development of various acts and legislation on domestic abuse (thank God for that curfew on wife beating in 1895!). There's a reason they have legislation that specifically protects them and, pertinent to this post, it's to do with the capacity for consent and the ability to protect oneself using other laws, legislations or freedoms.





If they did not consent, it's not a kink - it's a crime.

If they did not have the capacity to consent, it's not a kink - it's a crime.

If their ability to consent was undermined, it is not a kink - it's a crime.




I don't wanna see, on people's "don't do" list, validations of other people's perversions* or crimes.......it's not even a little bit ok and yet, when people write it alongside scat play or scarification, there is the implication that it's ok as long as it's practiced elsewhere and i'm not forced to participate.




It's not a kink. It's not ok. Ever.




*used in the proper sense of the word.




"I'm bad, and that's good. I will never be good, and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be, than me."
― The Bad Guy Affirmation, Wreck It Ralph






“You'll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You'll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.” - Dr. Seuss

Edited: 10/23/2015 by {ksenia}
Post #1024315
~darla~
10/24/2015     
Member I have to admit I was quite surprised when i saw ppl listing these things in their won't do... i was of the opinion that it goes without saying and that it was a strange thing to say. In my opinion it was then a short list because if we were to say everything that we won't do then why stop just at no children or animals?

So yes i agree.. it's about time they aren't even mentioned because it's not a kink or a fetish for all the reasons you outlined. I won't go into repeating it all... I'll just say...

DITTO


~We accept the love we think we deserve~
~What other people say about me is none of my business~
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10/24/2015
  
~darla~
Member
I have to admit I was quite surprised when i saw ppl listing these things in their won't do... i was of the opinion that it goes without saying and that it was a strange thing to say. In my opinion it was then a short list because if we were to say everything that we won't do then why stop just at no children or animals?

So yes i agree.. it's about time they aren't even mentioned because it's not a kink or a fetish for all the reasons you outlined. I won't go into repeating it all... I'll just say...

DITTO


~We accept the love we think we deserve~
~What other people say about me is none of my business~
Post #1024359
Kasha_*dArc_Angel*
10/26/2015     
Member



Extremely well said!!!


Fate whispered to the Warrior "You can't withstand the storm.."
The Warrior whispered back "I am the storm."
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10/26/2015
  



Extremely well said!!!


Fate whispered to the Warrior "You can't withstand the storm.."
The Warrior whispered back "I am the storm."
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~Knighthawk
10/28/2015     
Member Thank you for saying that {ksenia}! Some of us in here got slammed to hell and back for saying that very thing years ago. I stood My ground on that; I still do. If it is kink, for God's sakes don't mention children or animals, those are sick criminal perversions. That should just go without saying.
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10/28/2015
  
~Knighthawk
Member
Thank you for saying that {ksenia}! Some of us in here got slammed to hell and back for saying that very thing years ago. I stood My ground on that; I still do. If it is kink, for God's sakes don't mention children or animals, those are sick criminal perversions. That should just go without saying.
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