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kittycat
10/27/2017     
Member My master and I are both happily married. Our spouses are okay with us being master/pet - as long as there is no sex involved. Verbal teasing and flirting is okay, but that's about as far as it's supposed to go. He's also in a position where he can acceptably control me around others in our social group, so there's plenty of opportunity for orders and taking care of my master. It's expected in our community.

Unfortunately, the only dom/sub situations I've been in were seriously sexual. I'm trying to please my master by obeying immediately, using titles and being observant. There's got to be more I can do, though. What are nonsexual ways you have pleased your dom?

EDIT: My master is new to a nonsexual concept as well. Any advice for him would also be wonderful.

Edited: 10/27/2017 by kittycat
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10/27/2017
  
kittycat
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My master and I are both happily married. Our spouses are okay with us being master/pet - as long as there is no sex involved. Verbal teasing and flirting is okay, but that's about as far as it's supposed to go. He's also in a position where he can acceptably control me around others in our social group, so there's plenty of opportunity for orders and taking care of my master. It's expected in our community.

Unfortunately, the only dom/sub situations I've been in were seriously sexual. I'm trying to please my master by obeying immediately, using titles and being observant. There's got to be more I can do, though. What are nonsexual ways you have pleased your dom?

EDIT: My master is new to a nonsexual concept as well. Any advice for him would also be wonderful.

Edited: 10/27/2017 by kittycat
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princess
12/15/2017     
Member
Service-oriented submission will probably be ideal and that umbrella is large. What this simply entails are activities He assigns that you perform whereby your submission is demonstrated through acts of service. There is a caveat. Oftentimes submissives have a running list of things in their heads they’d love to do. However, you are not the Captain. He is.

It’s an extensive subject and you’ll find lots of resources on the Internet. But the most important is found upon your head. Listening is imperative. The challenge when serving another is recognizing that they determine what is enough. Busyness can be an avenue for channeling dissatisfaction when our needs go unmet. I do not support this behavior. If you have communicated your desire for more and nothing has changed you must wait on Him.

In short, you are the subordinate. As a pet, you exist for His pleasure. And if that is the manner He wishes to use you the next step is to calibrate yourself to His frequency instead of trying to change the station. Lean into Him and not into yourself.

~princess
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12/15/2017
  
princess
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Service-oriented submission will probably be ideal and that umbrella is large. What this simply entails are activities He assigns that you perform whereby your submission is demonstrated through acts of service. There is a caveat. Oftentimes submissives have a running list of things in their heads they’d love to do. However, you are not the Captain. He is.

It’s an extensive subject and you’ll find lots of resources on the Internet. But the most important is found upon your head. Listening is imperative. The challenge when serving another is recognizing that they determine what is enough. Busyness can be an avenue for channeling dissatisfaction when our needs go unmet. I do not support this behavior. If you have communicated your desire for more and nothing has changed you must wait on Him.

In short, you are the subordinate. As a pet, you exist for His pleasure. And if that is the manner He wishes to use you the next step is to calibrate yourself to His frequency instead of trying to change the station. Lean into Him and not into yourself.

~princess
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